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You can’t out-help someone’s attachment to their problem
Because the problem isn’t just a problem to them. It’s doing a job for them that your solution can’t replace. Identity: If I let go of this, who am I without it? Some people have carried something so long it’s become part of their story. Healing would mean rewriting the story. Payoff: Every stuck problem…
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Love has never been the cause of one’s undoing. It is through attachment where one loses themselves.
Love stays open-handed. It wants the other to be fully themselves, and in that space you get to be fully yourself too. Attachment closes the fist. It isn’t love doing the damage, it’s the fear underneath — if I don’t hold this tight, I’ll lose it, I’ll lose me. That’s where the undoing happens. You…